3 Little Known Truths to Help You Plow Through Tough Times
September 18, 2023September 18, 2023
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Feeling Overwhelmed, Life Challenges, Moving Forward, Struggles, Tough Times

3 Little Known Truths to Help You Plow Through Tough Times

When times are tough, it’s difficult to stay focused on your goals and aspirations. You may find yourself wondering when the hardships in your life will go away. The truth is, life’s hardships never truly fade away. You can use this to your advantage, though, by viewing these challenges as opportunities.

The more you’re able to view life’s tests as catalysts for growth, the better prepared you’ll be to sail through them.

Take these points to heart, and you’ll soon be on your way to navigating life’s most tumultuous seas:

1. Pain can drive you onward. Pain – whether physical or mental – is an indication that something, somewhere, isn’t right. People are taught from birth that pain is a negative force meant to torment or beguile us, but this isn’t the case. Pain can serve as a beacon in the darkness, a torch that illuminates the path.

  • Oftentimes, psychological pain is the result of unresolved issues that are smoldering beneath the surface. Only by confronting these issues, by bringing them to the surface, can you move beyond them. This can be done on your own or with the help from a counsellor.

  • Everything has an opposite, and pain is the opposite of joy. If not for pain, we would have no understanding of joy as a state of being. Don’t run from pain. Instead, face it head on and ask yourself, “What is the cause of my pain?”

  • The answer can lead you to joy if you’re willing to address the source of your pain.

2. Your mindset determines your outcomes. How you react to hardship often determines how much of it you will experience.

  • Your reactions have immediate and lasting effects on both your body and mind, and choosing to act instead of react can free you from habitual behavior that might be causing challenges in the first place.

  • Optimism and realism aren’t mutually exclusive. Life’s ups and downs are part of the relativistic nature of the universe. It’s important that you face both with equal vigor.

  • When you swim in a lake or ocean, you know perfectly well that the crash of one wave leads to the cresting of another. Life operates in the same way, so expect each swell to bring with it its own challenge. Avoid letting negativity color your perceptions.

  • If you expect pain, you will react in pain. And if you react in pain – whether the threat is real or not – you will miss out on any opportunities hidden within the challenge itself.

3. Most fears are not representative of reality. It’s important that you differentiate between fears that stem from physical threats and fears that arise in the mind.

  • The latter are often created by the brain as it runs various scenarios deep within your subconscious. When you dream, you become aware of this process. These mental fears are meant to keep you from taking unnecessary risks.

  • To succeed in today’s high-tech and interconnected world, you have to be able to face these fears head on. This is the only way to convince your subconscious that the threats it perceives are not real.

  • Only with repeated exposure to discomfort can you convince your subconscious mind that it has nothing to fear from these non-physical threats.

  • You can absolutely overcome fear every single time if you’re willing to force yourself through the discomfort it generates. Typically, this discomfort will melt away the moment you dive into the task or situation you’re dreading.

Taking action with these concepts in mind will help you find solutions for many of your challenges. When you can manage the present, the future will take care of itself.

Remember: opportunity only exists in the present moment, and in order to build toward your ideal tomorrow, you have to deal effectively with the life you have today.

As you can see, there are ways we can move through tough times in life. You are not alone! Sometimes we need to be supported by others, or learn tools to be able to move through challenge and discomfort. Should you wish to work with a Registered Clinical Counsellor feel free to reach out to me at Reflective Soul Counselling. Feel free to email me at [email protected] or call 250-300-6215 to book a session.